Tonight over dinner my wife and I had a talk about God’s desire for reconciliation. I recently had a text message conversation with an acquaintance of mine that turned into a horrible miscommunication and offense was taken by the other party. Sure I could just chalk this up to the perils of the technological age we live in and blame it on the cell phone company, but for some reason I have not been able to let this one go. Relationships are important to me even though I often talk about buying a house in the woods somewhere where my wife, dog and I could just disappear. We talked about how we will forever justify in our own minds why talking to the person face to face surely isn’t the answer. Confrontation is so difficult for both us. If we are so haunted by the lingering issues that remain unresolved why can’t I just bring myself to sit the person down and talk through it?
I had to ask myself the question, “why have I not created an environment amongst those important to me where it is natural to deal with offenses the moment they arise?” It should be obvious how much I care about the person when it affects me so much.
I know what I must do and I will do it…maybe reluctantly, maybe begrudgingly, but I will. Relationships are hard but the reality is that we are not alone on this earth and I am slowly realizing that the earth doesn’t revolve around me.
Chris
Connersvine
Relationships are important.Jump all over this one Chris,the sooner the better. Look them in the eyes and tell them how much they mean to you.Show them what Jesus looks like.If not, it will stand in the way of your prayer life,and we all know how that just messes up life in general. Pray and confront.Good to hear from you!Becky
Relationships while hard are an important part of who we are. For women relationships define who we are…I’m a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, etc. We aren’t in this world alone and we have to work at things. Sure we won’t always see eye to eye and we won’t always agree, but that’s the beauty of it all…we don’t have to. We can still be friends and not agree. Take the step and talk this person…it’s obvious they do mean a great deal to you. Ask the Lord to help you in what you say and do.
I just found something in “The Low Road to New Heights” by Wellington Bonne that might be helpful in dealing with the situation–”Perhaps the trait that most helps us to become a spiritual mother or father is to see people as God sees them. In order to do this, we must consecrate our vision to God saying, “Help me to see this person as you see them, not in any other way. Help me to lay aside prejudices and judgements. And help me to see myself as a role model.”"
oops that’s Wellington Boone not Bonne
wasn’t sure if this is the same or not.
Small Straws In A Soft Wind by Marsha Burns — March 13, 2008:
The enemy is jamming communication signals. You will find that misunderstandings are more the rule than the exception because the devil is creating confusion in order to bring destruction and ruin to various areas of your life. Rise up and take authority over your airwaves and call forth peace and harmony. And, in the natural realm be as precise and clear in the expression and reception of ideas as you possibly can. Don’t assume anything, says the Lord.
1 Corinthians 14:33 For God is not the author of confusion but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints.